I did a podcast with my good friend Ann Harrison, about the 3P’s of a writer’s life, my life in particular. OMGOSH the past two weeks was chaotic. My stress level shot up to over 100% because I was trying to build ROME in a day. Crazy, right??? I was so determine to build my author’s platform by pushing myself beyond the limits of a my day. I was working to establish my presence on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Podcast, and YouTube only to suffer from a major dose of STRESS. My typing was ridiculous, especially on my website. My comprehension of learning something new was a challenge, because my brain was exhausted, and sleep was calling for me to get in bed. I didn’t know when to stop. I was constantly seeking perfection, which doesn’t exist.
I attended a webinar on viniyoga and heartmath to learn how to relax my mind, my body, and my spirit. I had let go of my daily tasks, and become conscious aware of what I was doing to my holistic self. I practiced and learned techniques to help me to meditate, and how to be in tune with my heart through intentional breathing. This exercise allowed me to focus on the simplicity of life in its complexity. It’s the ‘present moment’ that matters the most. And we need to pay attention when our body speaks to us, or illness and even death can occur due to stress.
I abandoned the perfectionist within me (I’m lying— it’s a working progress), but I’m taking steps to slow things down by working on one platform at a time. For example, I set up a new blog on one day. I started a podcast and hosted a guest on Sunday. I even made a nice art cover for my podcast on Monday without the stress of trying be a perfectionist. I revised my website without starting over from scratch. And now I’m slowly migrating my previous blog posts, and correcting a few mistakes along the way. And what I don’t do today, there’s always tomorrow.
Protected Time is a big deal for authors, especially new writers. Every writer need to allot some time to write without distractions. And this can be struggle when you have a family who act like they can’t do anything without mom, or you have babies and small kids. I get that, time is precious and rare. I’m so glad those days for me are over.
My kids, one teen and two adult children are self sufficient, and they are great at respecting my protected time to write. We are all creative individuals so we don’t cross each others path unless it’s to offer feedback or to celebrate each other’s accomplishments.
However, I don’t get to practice solitary writing when my hubby is home. For some reason, he wants to talk about anything and everything when I’m writing, and I can’t do both. So I had to reschedule my protected time two hours earlier than normal without neglecting dear hubby. I’m an early bird, and my protected time to write is 4am. Hubby refuses to wake up that early ah-HA! Sometimes you may have to change your writing time to accommodate family and work.
Benefits of the 3P’s
Remember ROME wasn’t built in a day. Take your time and build your author’s platform one step and one site at a time. Don’t compare yourself to what others are doing. If you make mistakes, embrace and laugh at them. And learn your mistakes, and learn to let go of that perfectionist side of your personality.
Listen to your body, and give yourself permission to take a break. It’s okay to put what you can’t do today away for another time. And this goes back to the saying, “ROME wasn’t built in a day.” Focus on your holistic self and alleviate stress at its source.
Allot some time on your schedule for writing. Figured out what works best for you and your family without interruption. This is your protected time for you and your story. Stay focus, and eliminate distractions such as emails, social media and TV.
I hope this helps those who may be juggling between different tasks of their writer’s life. I’m not good at multi-tasking and I don’t like to stress. I’m feeling much better since I implemented some strategy to help make my writing journey a little easier.
Inevitably we find ourselves tackling too many things at the same time, spreading our focus so thin that nothing gets the attention it deserves. This is commonly referred to as “being busy.” Being busy, however, is not the same thing as being productive.”