Tish Bouvier

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Last weekend I so focused on my writing process, which included setting up my author’s platform. And I didn’t take time to do something that brings me pleasure such as reading. I got caught up again trying to build ROME in a day. My mind was so stressed out I couldn’t just SIT and FOCUS on the beautiful pages of someone else’s story.

Then magic happened…

A suggestion took root in my stressed out mind to read something different from the genre I’m writing. And then I started thinking to myself, well dang, since I’m writing BoO’s story (BoO is my ghost that lives in a toaster), why not read other children’s book to get inspired? Truth is, I have never written a children’s story, and my mind doesn’t serve me well to reflect on my childhood memories. But one magical morning after attending my weekend WWJ’s Bootcamp *Writing Warriors For Jesus, I made BoO, my weekend writing project. I also read as many children’s books as I can over the weekend. And that was the best decisions I’ve made in the last three months. There’s nothing like a children’s book to take your stress away. 

Books N’Review

I choose three books out of the 20 children’s books I read this past weekend, to review. I will share my thoughts, hoping it will encourage you to take a mental break, relax your mind, and give yourself permission to be an adult child. Now, allow your imagination to travel into the pages of wonderment.

THE KID DRANK THE COFFEE by M.J. Devaney

The Kid Drank The Coffee, was my favorite weekend read😁. The message was right on target for both kids and parents. Especially if you have that ONE KID who likes to take a sip of your coffee when you’re not looking. I had three of them, so I can relate.

The story took you on a journey of a kid’s first sip of coffee. One sip. Two sips until the coffee mug is empty! And coffee ignite SUPER POWERS! But as an adult we know how coffee works with our bodies — taking us on a caffeinated high, and then we bottom out.

This is M.J. Devaney first children’s book, and he presented it with engaging yet, simple illustration, and a story most parents can relate to their first experience with coffee.

If Mom Became An Octopus by C.M.Healy

I saw pieces of myself as mom in this book, and wondered what did my kids think of me when I would complain about having too much to do and not enough arms to do it, because my kids were too lazy to help. If my Mom Became An Octopus, will take you through a young child’s vivid imagination.

The lazy child envisioned his mom changing into some of nature’s wildest animals. Eventually, after seeing his mom morphing from one animal to the next, things got a little too weird, especially when in public. Finally, the child realized the things moms do to make life a littler easier for their kids.

This book offers a message of appreciation, and allows parents to talk with their children about chores, and helping around the house to make life a little easier for each other.

The Scariest Book In The Entire World (*Book 2 from the series Entire Whole Books) by Joey Acker

This book had me laughing out loud, had to ask me what was I reading. I thought they wrote this book just of me to use as therapy. Someone who seeks to escape from reality, and burst into a world of unexpected laughter. That’s exactly what I got from reading, The Scariest Book In The World Entire World.

Initially, I reminded myself that I like nothing scary, but this is a children’s book so it can’t be that scary. It wasn’t. Joey Acker took elements of a child mind, things an adult you would find creepy, such as the dark and a clown. I don’t like the dark, and I always thought a clown was too creepy to be funny. But the one in this story brought me an unanticipated burst of laughter, with a surprised ending that confirms my adult fear of clowns. However, I laughed throughout this entire book. 

The author wrote this book in a minimalist format, with simple drawings that that would give the illusion anyone could pick up a pencil and draw the characters. Kids like simplicity, adults makes things complicated, so this book hit its target audience. Parents just need to pick it up and read it to their kids in their most dramatic voices. 

Platforms Presence

I did a podcast with my good friend Ann Harrison, about the 3P’s of a writer’s life, my life in particular. OMGOSH the past two weeks was chaotic. My stress level shot up to over 100% because I was trying to build ROME in a day. Crazy, right??? I was so determine to build my author’s platform by pushing myself beyond the limits of a my day. I was working to establish my presence on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Podcast, and YouTube only to suffer from a major dose of STRESS. My typing was ridiculous, especially on my website. My comprehension of learning something new was a challenge, because my brain was exhausted, and sleep was calling for me to get in bed. I didn’t know when to stop. I was constantly seeking perfection, which doesn’t exist.

Positive Mistake

I attended a webinar on viniyoga and heartmath to learn how to relax my mind, my body, and my spirit. I had let go of my daily tasks, and become conscious aware of what I was doing to my holistic self. I practiced and learned techniques to help me to meditate, and how to be in tune with my heart through intentional breathing. This exercise allowed me to focus on the simplicity of life in its complexity. It’s the ‘present moment’ that matters the most. And we need to pay attention when our body speaks to us, or illness and even death can occur due to stress.

I abandoned the perfectionist within me (I’m lying— it’s a working progress), but I’m taking steps to slow things down by working on one platform at a time. For example, I set up a new blog on one day. I started a podcast and hosted a guest on Sunday. I even made a nice art cover for my podcast on Monday without the stress of trying be a perfectionist. I revised my website without starting over from scratch. And now I’m slowly migrating my previous blog posts, and correcting a few mistakes along the way. And what I don’t do today, there’s always tomorrow.

Protected Time

Protected Time is a big deal for authors, especially new writers. Every writer need to allot some time to write without distractions. And this can be struggle when you have a family who act like they can’t do anything without mom, or you have babies and small kids. I get that, time is precious and rare. I’m so glad those days for me are over.

My kids, one teen and two adult children are self sufficient, and they are great at respecting my protected time to write. We are all creative individuals so we don’t cross each others path unless it’s to offer feedback or to celebrate each other’s accomplishments.

However, I don’t get to practice solitary writing when my hubby is home. For some reason, he wants to talk about anything and everything when I’m writing, and I can’t do both. So I had to reschedule my protected time two hours earlier than normal without neglecting dear hubby. I’m an early bird, and my protected time to write is 4am. Hubby refuses to wake up that early ah-HA! Sometimes you may have to change your writing time to accommodate family and work.

Benefits of the 3P’s

Remember ROME wasn’t built in a day. Take your time and build your author’s platform one step and one site at a time. Don’t compare yourself to what others are doing. If you make mistakes, embrace and laugh at them. And learn your mistakes, and learn to let go of that perfectionist side of your personality.

Listen to your body, and give yourself permission to take a break. It’s okay to put what you can’t do today away for another time. And this goes back to the saying, “ROME wasn’t built in a day.” Focus on your holistic self and alleviate stress at its source.

Allot some time on your schedule for writing. Figured out what works best for you and your family without interruption. This is your protected time for you and your story. Stay focus, and eliminate distractions such as emails, social media and TV.

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I hope this helps those who may be juggling between different tasks of their writer’s life. I’m not good at multi-tasking and I don’t like to stress. I’m feeling much better since I implemented some strategy to help make my writing journey a little easier.

Inevitably we find ourselves tackling too many things at the same time, spreading our focus so thin that nothing gets the attention it deserves. This is commonly referred to as “being busy.” Being busy, however, is not the same thing as being productive.”

Purpose

This blog is mainly for random thoughts gone mental (no offense to anyone), but I have a lot thoughts scattered inside my head, and I need a little place on the internet to release them and set my words FREE! My goal is to write without conforming to anyone’s rules. Someone said there are no rules to writing, but that’s not true. There’s always rules. I just choose not to follow them, at least not right now. So I’m going to utilize this space to share my writing journey, uninhibited thoughts (don’t be scared my thoughts are usually PG), and embrace this journey of writing cozy mystery and a series of haiku books.

I love haiku. I develop a passion for haiku when I took part in NaNoWrimo. I would write a haiku before I faced the chaos of my day, by focusing on the early morning silence of my world (my sleepy kids). This allowed me to appreciate the simplicity of life around me, usually the things we often take for granted; such as the wind harmonizing through the wind chimes, and observing the droplets of the first seasonal rain. Have you ever captured the scent of the first rain? Try using all your senses with the changing seasons, you’ll be surprised what nature has to offer you.

Inspiration

Okay, I must confess. I was a lazy reader and writer as a child. I didn’t like school, but I excel and did well. Reading and writing wasn’t fostered in my home. It was a chore to me, and I didn’t engage in it unless it was a school assignment. So you see, this is why I call myself a latent writer. I’m nearly 60 years old, and I’m just NOW embracing both reading and writing. And cozy mystery— HELLO!!! Where have I been?

I definitely wasn’t into TV either so I didn’t know about the detective shows such as Murder She Wrote and others. But that’s neither here nor there. However, I love reading cozy mystery thanks to my first read Case Closed by Sharon Rose Mierke. For some reason she’s like a pinch from my soul, and because of that I’ve latched on to her from a distance. I love the simplistic season of her characters and her writing style, it just flows as thought the conversation was between you and all her characters. I would swear she wrote about my great grands.

I feel like I’ve discovered a pot of gold under the rainbow, seriously, that’s how passionate I feel when I grab a cozy and read it, especially one of Sharon Rose Mierke books. So now I want to write my own cozy mystery series, and that’s exactly what I’m doing. You can follow my journey because I’m going to share every step of the way, right here and elsewhere too. I am taking my author’s platform to podcast, YOUTUBE, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and blogging.

First Book

I can officially call myself an author. I have an ebook, Echoes and Whispers: Haiku for NaNo Writers. It’s a motivational book to help writers, especially those facing a writing challenge to push words forward and keep their writing momentum going for 30 days. Be sure to pick up your copy available on different venues as an ebook Books2Read.

On this blog I just want to be who I am (authentic) while still discovering bits and pieces about myself as a writer, and improving my craft. I see great things with this blog in the near feature. But I just want to extend a personal thank you for taking the time to read my first blog post, and hopefully you will make you presence known by saying hello. Welcome to hashtag #mywritinglife a haiku written just for YOU 😉

Haiku

sun don’t always shine

storms dancing on surf-side beach

soothing sound of rain